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I timeless lesson and marketing at the same time, the best kind, I love it. 🙂
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That’s It
I was looking for years for the Right Mentor.
I knew, what I needed. The School. The manual.
Step by step Instructions. The Plan. What happened?
Exactly that you predicted:
“People will tell you they’ll act in a certain way in a certain situation, and then do the exact opposite. They’re not “bad”, they’re just doing what people always do — ignore reality.”
I’m still waiting for the school I paid money for in April 2010. And I can’t even say, the guy, who was going to give the lessons, is a bad person.
He knows Internet market, well, as anybody could know it, because it’s an ever changing process with some new stuff coming up all the time (as I know by now). However, I knew from my friend, He Is Real. “Top marketers constantly observe people’s actions (not their words).”
My bad.
However, that’s what happened next.
“Through this first relationship, you will be introduced to other teachers and guru’s they recommend. (By the way, that’s exactly what did I say to the other friend involved, who said we’ve lost our money). It’s still up to you to be an adult, and be critical of anyone you get advice from until they’ve also earned your trust.”
Conclusion?
Well, I definitely learn some stuff, and a friend of mine, I’ve mentioned before helped me…. Downside – it’s very far from where I want to be. And, I am still waiting for that School, feeling pretty stupid. Trust is definitely broken…I’m not going to trash the guy.
And the point is, I still need the School, The Right Mentor, Step By Step Instructions and a Live Communication.
Something else I’d like to add, and you might not be agreed with what I have to say, it makes a lot of sense to me, however.
We can be well aligned with only some people, business relationship pretty much like a marriage. And the timing is important too.
PS About my website, for over a month I can’t access it, every time I try to open this website I get Mozilla crash reports, not sure what’s going on, maybe I need to install some more plug-ins or…
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“The key to success, usually, doesn’t involve changing too rapidly at first. You don’t need more staff, or a bigger office, or infusions of cash from investors.”
How often we distract ourselves and ‘prepare’ our business when we should be marketing and promoting. I’m guilty. Now that I’ve admitted that, and gone through the SWS I’ve got the confidence and help I needed. I’m looking forward to the action seminar, because after last years, I know there’s no hype and bullshit. And this time…I’m ready!
Reply Confidence rocks, Dana. Combined with a little discipline and a willingness to ride out the process of getting experience, and you’re off to the races…
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Yes Ed it would be great for a lot of us to have help from someone we can trust and someone really knows what they are doing,But unfortunely most of you guru type charge way to much for a struggling marketer who is just starting out.So it a catch 22 ,no money no help.So the people in the know only help people the people who has plenty of money already to pay the high price,but the people who really need to start their own onlnie business becuase they are broke and over whelmed bills,the people who really need the help,get pushed aside becuase the gurus do not want to help a broke poor person who cannot afford thier price tag.so they are stuck,frustrated nd desperate.
Reply Who’s “Ed”? And in case you didn’t notice, you’re reading a FREE blog crammed with solid content that goes back six years. All free.
Your bitterness is just your ego chattering away, looking for an excuse to never get moving. Don’t have the money right now? Fine. Start saving now. Put $100 aside every month, in a disciplined way, and in a year you’ll have over a grand to invest in getting the courses or attending the events that can help you.
Can’t “find” an extra hundred bucks each month? Then stop watching TV, put yourself into “Grind Mode” for a year, and get an extra somewhere that pays $100 a month. And save every penny of it. (That’s 10 hours a month at $10/hr net… one-and-a-half graveyard shifts at a 7-11. Two weekend days invested in your future. Yeah, you can do that, and more.)
Most of the guys at the top of the game… including those arrogant guru’s you speak of… DID this kind of “get your shit together” penance early on, taking on bad jobs, earning their progress in sweat and tears, and working hard while putting off gratification.
Maybe you can’t do it now. I certainly NEVER advise anyone to go into debt to get into a seminar or buy anything… it’s dumb, and it puts undue pressure on you. Earn your way as you go, pay your way as you go.
Now, stop bitching, and get proactive.
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Interesting blog John.
The best thing I’ve done this year was to set up a peer group mastermind and I’m currently setting up a few extra groups.
It’s made a big difference to my way of thinking about my business and it’s a huge relief to have a team around me.
Sorry I can’t be at your Action Seminar.
Reply We’ll miss you, Paul… but great job setting up that mastermind. It can take you a long way toward where you wanna go. And when you’re ready, hopefully we’ll have an opportunity for you to join us in something.
Thanks for the post.
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Hello John, great article and came at a great time, I happen to have found a good management and marketing system and I am now surround with winners just like you say in your article, and I have set up blogs and will be writing lots of my own stuff very soon, working on new one at moment, through the system I am using I finding a lot of frustrated people, so I working with them and one of the trainers/mentors/coaches. So yes its true what you say, thanks for great articles and inspiration
Patrick, Dublin, Ireland
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I’ll buy you a beer buddy.
Hey, what are your thoughts on mobile marketing? Ed Dale and others have been talking about it on Facebook…
Today’s New York Times Magazine features a QR code on it’s cover! http://2d-code.co.uk/nyt-balloon-qr-code-cover/
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writing from Australia where Oprah has just came, saw and conquered! in her expansive/ humble way? Now there is an example of a support team in action! Love the formula, a plan then pooling success and momentum through a resourceful team of on track people actively realizing their goals.
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Hey John, this is exactly what I need. A room full experts sounds very very tempting. (Finances permitting) What I need between now and then is a good solid kick in the ass. (Do you make international house calls?
Trying to be frosty in the Philippines
Reply Never been to the Philippines, Jeffrey. On my wish-list of great places to visit, though.
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Thanks John, I needed that post. Anchors around my neck? Yeah, I can relate.
I would love to hear some input from some seasoned folk…and steer my thinking in a more productive direction. I’ll probably do your Simple Writing System instead though…baby steps, you know.
Reply It’s all about movement, James. You do what you can, and you do the best you can… and you just keep moving forward.
Thanks for the post.
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Hope it only hurt a little.
Welcome aboard Planet Carlton… and be sure to spend some time wandering the archives… it’s a gold mine of great stuff…
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James says
Thanks John been receiving your emails with interest this has struck a chord with me.Now I know why I have never seen the “Lone Ranger’ he is out here in the hills riding all alone like me. Better head into town and meet some folks. The world is kinda big when you have a go at it by yourself.
Hi!,Ho!,Winner!
I met the Lone Ranger once, at Disneyland in the early sixties. Nice guy. Had beer on his breath, though…
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Success is the fruit of working a good plan.It is a journey and an expierence and not a destination.You want to always be learning,there is a front and a back end to it as well.As Freddie Mercury so eleoquently stated”no time for losers.” It is crucial to build uptempo relationships and associations with winners.One fine day I shall be performing at marketing seminars as “the guru’s choice.”
Reply You win the award for First Mention of Queen in this blog, Rene. Great band. Tragic end to Freddy, sorry he’s gone (though that Big Rock Band In The Sky has GOT to be the most ass-kicking outfit in the universe by now…)
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“Who do you trust?” Great question, although Sister Mary Elephant will remind the class that it’s “WHOM do you trust?”
But the answer is the same: Nobody. My business is my baby. Nobody touches it but me. Which is why my “business” is still a total non-starter.
Great post. Perfect diagnosis of my business failure. Is there room at your seminar for a lonely paranoid whack-job like me? Is a minimum revenue level required? (I have yet to make my first dime online.)
Reply Hey, we’re all paranoid whack jobs on this bus, Kevin.
You are very welcome, and will feel right at home.
Nice description of a common situation for entrepreneurs in your comment, too. Thanks for posting it.
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Really excited for this one. Sounds like most of the SWS team in one place!
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I trust people like you, John, whose training has helped me make a lot of money over many years in a row. Short answer. I trust what works, consistently, from the top folks in the world.
Great example in your post of a killer opener that’s engaging, and an artful ‘turn’ for the seminar pitch, I’m sure it’ll be helpful to all who attend as always. Your posts are always a lesson in and of themselves.
Happy holidays everyone, make it outstanding.
-k
Reply Same to you and yours, Ken. One of these times, we’re gonna drag your ass over from the Islands to an event…
Reply hi John, hey I’m not in the isles anymore, have been here in colorado the last few years… closer to vegas.. and yeah that would be great to meet up someday.
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Your post is really mind blowing and amazing, thanks for such a lovely blog
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