Mostly, I’ve been able to resist becoming a sports zombie again. The last time I followed a team with any fervor was back when the Giants won 162 games and got shut out of the World Series with a humiliating final-game loss to the Dodgers. After the angst had eaten a hole through my heart, I vowed to never get so emotionally involved in sports anymore.
I still enjoy the occasional big game, and I still love the pageantry and circus atmosphere… but mostly, I am dispassionate about it.
It’s a game.
And yet… sometimes, I just get caught up in it all over again.
Tonight, Monday Night Football, the Arizona Cardinals (1-5) faced the undefeated Chi-town Bears… and inexplicably were up 17-zip well into the second quarter.
The underdog was winning.
And yet… you could see the panic welling up on the Arizona bench. It’s like landing a lucky punch on the big bruiser… and you’re praying he doesn’t get back up, because you don’t feel you have another lucky punch in you.
The game just ended. Perhaps the most humiliating defeat in NFL history. The Cards did choke, and big time. They didn’t deserve the loss.
But they didn’t do what was needed to win, either.
Ah, the metaphors must be flying all over the joint tonight, as the sports writers send in their stories.
Now, I don’t care what happens to Arizona’s season. I really don’t.
But I feel for those guys. I’ve suffered defeat as great and greater, both personally and as part of a team. I know well the sharp, ice-cold pain in their bellies. It won’t go away anytime soon, either.
Losing is one thing. You do your job the best you can, you are faced with struggle and adversary, and somebody’s gotta lose.
But to choke… that’s something else.
That’s the stuff of nightmares for a lifetime.
Sports really is a metaphor for life. And business. Except you aren’t usually playing with an audience dissecting your every move. Unless your failures are truly spectacular, they will be forgotten soon enough.
Listen carefully: There are NO top marketers in the game who have not tasted defeat at some point. In fact, most of the best can curl your hair with tales of disaster and embarrassment and ruin.
Sometimes, even, they choke. Freeze up, do the absolute wrong thing at the wrong time, fumble away a sure victory.
Life isn’t a video game. You don’t get to hit replay when you don’t like where things are going.
A bad (yet accurate) piece of advice I once received comes to mind: Before you decide to marry someone… see how they act when they’re tired, cold, wet, hungry… and lost.
It’s easy to be charming when things are going well. Real character is revealed, however, when things are headed for the compost pile.
I’ve been advising rookies for years how to act to maximize the success arc of their career. There’s a lot resting on your attitude and your mindset. Winners learn to shove negativity into a closet and slam the door shut tight, and keep moving toward the goal no matter what.
But they also learn how to absorb the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune.
I hope you live your entire life without choking. Without blowing a sure thing, without being leveled by a tsunami of bad luck and nervous fumbling. Without ever visiting that haunted, chilly space where you can’t meet anyone’s eye, and everything you are and have striven to be is suddenly in doubt.
But if you do choke, I hope you see it for what it is: A very common human experience that doesn’t have to scar you for life.
There are 3 kinds of people in this world: (1) Those who avoid taking any risk at all, and never go after their dream. (2) Those who get after it, but who get stumped by failure and adversary. And…
(3) Those who just dive into the feast and start chewing. Each success and each failure come laden with lessons, and they learn them all.
These “learners” may choke. But they won’t choke twice.
And they’re able to laugh about the time they did. Because every part of this life-long human drama you’re in is just another act in a play that ends only with the final curtain.
The choke is just a plot point. It’s how you react in the next act that counts.
You won’t learn anything about yourself by ignoring reality, or going into denial. You’ll squander amazing chunks of life if you wallow in your agony. And if you allow the crazed vicissitudes of whatever game or business you’re in to define you… you’ll lose your taste for risk, and poison your victories.
Never going for it will not guarantee you a life without pain… and pretty much assigns you a load of remorse. Going for it, but letting the bastards get you down, robs you of life’s true adventure — the endless, completely unpredictable arc of experience that only you are in a position to enjoy. Or ruin, with your negativity.
It can be lonely, when you refuse to give in, and refuse to stop pushing for more. The private tragedies and dramas of everyone around you makes them yearn for company in their misery. They feel comfort in your defeat, and justification for their own reluctance to join the feast.
And guess what? The winners learn to create a cozy corner inside their loneliness. Sooner or later, they will find what they seek, and the loneliness can end anytime they choose. The best use the occasional reclusive moment, though, to gather their wits and think the Big Thoughts.
Because the curtain will rise again… even if they have to pull the rope themselves.
Choking sucks. Don’t get me wrong.
But so does heartache and sickness and reversal of fortune.
Dust yourself off, learn your lesson… and when you’ve caught your breath, get back in the game.
Hey — when you look at it the right way, you’ve got a great story to tell here. And, until that final exit stage right, you’ve got a chance to adjust the way the rest of the script comes out.
Watching someone choke curdles our gut because we intuitively know how easy it is to choke. Playing with the big boys is hard, whether it’s sports or business or life… and there are cruel consequences waiting at every turn.
Arm yourself with allies, friends, back-up and resources… and if you never have to use them to get yourself out of a jam, then you’ve led a lucky life.
Chances are, though, you’ll need them a lot if you’re gonna push hard to attain big things.
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